Plymouth mum dies unexpectedly just three weeks before her dying son's wedding
A MOTHER whose biggest wish was to see her dying son get married next month has died.
Forty-nine-year-old Raz May, from Mainstone, died unexpectedly at the beginning of the month – just three weeks before her son Stephen May, who is dying of a brain tumour, is due to get married.
Raz, a deputy manager at Nuffield Health and Leisure Centre, leaves behind Gary, her husband of nearly 28 years, son Stephen, 28, daughter Lisa-Marie, 27, and youngest son Sean, 24.
Raz also had another son Christopher, who died 30 years ago when he was just 13 months old, and she was a much-loved "Nana" to her six grandchildren five-year-old Ella, two-year-old Harry, Ethan, who passed away at birth, 14-month-old Kaleb, three-month-old Evie and six-year-old Conrad.
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Her husband Gary said she was "one in a million" who was "everybody's friend, confidant, and mother."
Raz, who had been suffering with problems with gallstones and her gallbladder for the past few months, passed away in her sleep on Thursday February 7 with Gary by her side.
He said: "Raz was one in a million. She was all about family, it meant everything to her. She was also very strong-willed and wasn't afraid to speak her mind. She was the life and soul of the party and everyone's friend, confidant and mother. But family was her one true passion – she spent all of her spare time with the children."
One of Raz's biggest wishes was to see her son Stephen get married at the beginning of next month.
Stephen, who was diagnosed with an incurable brain tumour at the end of last year and given only a few years to live, described his mum as his "rock".
He said: "It was her biggest wish to see me get married. I know she'll be looking down on us on the day, she'll definitely still be there. She's been my rock throughout my diagnosis and treatment. Sometimes I take comfort in the fact Mum will be waiting for me when it's my time to go, but sometimes I don't."
And Lisa-Marie, Raz's only daughter, said she had lost her "best friend".
She said: "Mum was my best friend, the one person I could turn to, she's like the stars in the sky now, I can't always see her but I know she will always be there."
Raz's family said her death had left a "massive void" in their lives that will never be filled. Gary said: "The one good thing in all the devastation is that Raz won't have to watch another child die. Having to say goodbye to Stephen would have broken her heart." The cause of Raz's death is still unknown and an inquest is due to take place within the next few weeks.
Raz's funeral takes place on Friday at Weston Mill Crematorium at 9am. The family have asked that everyone wears something purple, Raz's favourite colour. A celebration of her life will be held after the funeral at 10am at Stonehouse Creek Social Club.